Did you know that faith can grow cold and vanish in a single generation? Christian parents have an obligation to train up their children in the fear and admonition of the Lord (Eph 6:4). Why? Because the Lord desires godly offspring (Mal 2:15). I tell my own five children that God holds me accountable for training them with a Biblical worldview so that they, in turn, might raise their own future children in godliness. When we view our parental responsibilities as a long term investment in more than a single generation of Christians, we are more likely to resist the trends of the unbelieving culture which lure us into materialistic, autonomous individualism. With Christ as the author and perfecter of our faith, we can look beyond our own lifetimes and launch our children into the next generation.
Below I have included a set of beliefs which contribute to a multigenerational view of faith, followed by some key issues in our culture needing reformation. Finally, a few passages of scripture are listed which speak to the transfer of faith over time through the bearing and training of children.
* Beliefs Contributing to Multi-generational Faith
* Acceptance of Christ as Savior who redeems sinners by grace
* Acceptance of the sufficiency of Scripture and a biblical worldview in all areas of life, including faith and family.
* Acceptance of the father headship in the home for spiritual nurture
* Acceptance of parental responsibility to disciple one's children to replicate faith in their own future families
* Acceptance of age-integrated worship practices as guiding youth to become wise by walking with the wise
* Acceptance of the importance of the church in its role of equipping parents in Godliness
* Rejection of unbiblical models of child training, education and church practices which cultivate peer dependence and autonomous individualism
Key Areas for Transformation
1. Marriage & Children - The promiscuous, serial-dating, no fault divorce culture has become a major impediment to the transfer of multi-generational faith among believers. Christians now divorce more often than non-Christians. What is needed is a return to the biblical principles of purity before marriage and careful preparation under the loving protection and guidance of one's parents before being wed. We call it courtship. In its simplest form it is an agreement between children and their parents to work together, for God's glory, in the decision-making process to select a suitable marriage partner. We have included a helpful link to articles on courtship.
God's purpose for marriage includes the potential for having godly children (again, Malachi 2:15). While it is not my place to judge the size of any man's family, I will say that many Christian couples need to trust God more with their family planning rather than conforming to the two-child culture.
2. Education - The Bible is clear in its call for parents to train their own children. Whether this is done full-time at home, or in conjunction with sending one's child to an institutional school, Christian parents should maximize their ability to instruct their children in godly beliefs and behaviors (Ephesians 6:4).
Unfortunately, the majority of Christian parents in America today have turned the academic instruction of their children over to the secular government schools. In an attempt to achieve religious and multicultural egalitarianism, these institutions have become increasingly hostile to Christian beliefs. The Nehemiah Institute has discovered that a majority of Christian children (75%) attending public schools have accepted a secular humanist worldview. Furthermore, according to the Southern Baptist Council on Family Life's report to the 2002 Annual Meeting of the Southern Baptist Convention, 88% of the children raised in evangelical homes, a majority of whom are educated in public schools, leave church at the age of 18, never to return.
In sharp contrast, The National Home Education Research Institute, found that 94% of home school graduates retained the religious beliefs of their parents. While these data are not strictly parallel in focus, they do effectively show the dramatic difference between the fruit of a secular education versus Christ-centered instruction from one's own parents. Parents whose children are enrolled in Christian private schools should also make it a priority to disciple their own children to the greatest degree possible. Simply put, God did not intend for young children to be trained by institutions. He placed them with parents in families. Let's be careful that what we justify as a delegation of responsibility to others does not become an abdication of our duties to raise our children.
3. Family Worship - The need for fathers to exercise spiritual leadership in their homes is crucial for the transmission of multi-generational faith. Too often, parents assume that the spiritual training of their children is adequately covered by Sunday School classes or youth programs. Again, God does not mandate the training of children by an institution. Fathers would we wise to turn their hearts to their children, to establish regular habits of personal devotions, and then to lead their families in worship, prayer and Bible reading. In the Sleadd family we have made it our habit to have family worship each day before breakfast and after dinner.
4. Corporate Worship - The American Christian church has become increasingly program-based and consumer-oriented. Christians would be wise to return to the age-integrated practices of the early church where households functioned as embassies of the Lord and where congregational gatherings included families worshipping together. Coram Deo Church in Grants Pass is a family-integrated, disicple-making church that supports the Godly work of parents to train up their children in the faith.
